Parenting a toddler is one of the most challenging and heart-opening experiences in life. Or may I say it could be playful experiences too. Your child will have moods. Big moods! Lots of them! Happy, excited, curious, sad, anger and etc. How do you deal with all these ups and downs? What can you really do to help your child feel better? These are some suggestions are to help you find sensible ways to handle your toddlers unhappy moods.
If your toddler is screaming and upset, keep yourself calm. Put your focus on yourself first. At least try it and see what happens. Let see it this way.
Obviously you love your child and you want him or her to feel better. But in order to be the most effective at doing this, you must feel better yourself. Take care of your self first.
Children are emotional magnets and pick up on moods easily. You do not have to believe in any New Age garbage to be able to "feel the mood in the air." Body language and tone of voice speak volumes, and kids are especially open to these things.
Hopefully the situation I explain so far has been relevant. You might also want to consider the following:
During the explanations of airplane safety procedures, they always insist that you put your own oxygen mask on first, and then put the oxygen mask on your child. This is a striking example, and a perfect metaphor for what I am suggesting about parenting a toddler, or any age child for that matter.
How can you help your child feel better or ease their discomfort, if you are not feeling good yourself first? You must show them the way, by being the way. Teach by example. Look within and see if you are feeling uncomfortable. Slow down. Take some breaths. Do this while your child is screaming, and it will help ease the situation.
Shift your attention inward. Parenting a toddler is not easy, but you must find some centeredness despite the chaos. Be willing to try. See yourself as the child. Hold your child as if you are holding yourself.
To put your own mood first is not a selfish or unloving way to be. It will not mean that you do not care about your child. It will mean that you do care about your child. You must open your heart first, and this will subliminally teach your child to do the same.
Parenting a toddler is about loving him or her, is it not? So how do you love someone? You love someone by way of loving your self first.
So thats it. If there is any suggestion about this parenting tips that is not essential, I hope you would mind. We all see things from different angles, so something relatively insignificant to one parent may be crucial to another.
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Dealing With Your Toddlers Unhappy Moods
How to Get Your Baby to Sleep Better
One reason your baby have sleep problems is because of colic, it goes hand in hand. And, if your baby is having trouble sleeping, chances are, you are too. So let's help you all get some sleep.
The problem with a baby suffering from colic is they are over stimulated. They seem to have trouble winding down from all the stress they endure throughout the day. Their stress reliever is to cry. But instead of helping them to wind down, the crying often seems to wind them up. The crying gets out of hand, and sleep out of reach. These are some tips you can try to help your baby wind down and help her sleep through the night.
Recognize when your baby is tired
An overtired baby is not a pleasant baby. If your baby is displaying signs of being tired, help them to wind down and put them to bed. Signs of an overtired newborn (infant to 3 months) are:
- Fussing, whining, crying or screaming
- Glazed stare, looking away, turning head away, back arching
- Facial grimaces
- Clenched fists
- Flailing arm and leg movements, jerking
Make her crib as inviting as possible
Positioned the crib in comfortable spot in the room, free from drafts. Stay away from heat vents and windows. The crib should have no breathing hazards such as decorative pillows, fuzzy stuffed animals and toys, thick comforters etc.
Take care of the basics
A bath, clean, dry pajamas, a fresh diaper and a content tummy should make your baby comfortable and ready for sleep.
Turn down the lights
Close the blinds, drapes or shutters to block out light. Use a night light so you can check on her if necessary without disturbing her. Aromatherapy can be useful in helping a baby to wind down. Use essential oils of lavender and chamomile for best results.
Turn on the white noise
Your baby spent around nine months in your womb and listened to your heartbeat and other sounds while there. A sound that mimics the noise your baby heard while in the womb is an excellent choice for lulling your baby to sleep. Using a white noise cd routinely will also help mask out other extraneous noises in the house and help your baby sleep sounder and longer.
Be consistent
Babies love routine and consistency. Use the same routine every night. DO NOT VARY. You and your baby will both suffer if you don't stick to a routine. If you stick to this routine, your colicky baby should be sleeping better in no time.
If you need more information on how to deal with colicky babies, check out www.colic-baby-bootcamp.com. Hope this will help you. LOL